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there are many things I could say

On Friday, August 5, 2011, my dad passed away.

There are so many things I want to write about, but I'm not ready to share yet. Still, I want to say this quick thing.

I've spent hours since Dad's death looking through photographs. Old pictures stuck in those metallic photo pages—some I have never seen before. My own pre-digital pictures. Every single folder on my computer. I've been working on this:

Dad photos snip 
A collection of photos of Dad to put in the slide show Becky is making for his funeral.

I have so many good pictures. Photos of Dad with Mom. With Kendell. With my kids, and even by himself.

You know what I don't have? One single, solitary photograph that includes just me and my dad before he got sick.

Not even one.

A few weeks ago, Kendell took this picture of me and Dad in the courtyard at his home:

Amy dad last photo 

And of course: I love it. I'm grateful to have one last picture.

But oh, how much I wish I had one photo of the two of us together, before this hideous disease got a hold of him. This realization makes me weep.

So here is what I have to say: just go and do it. No matter how fat, grey, wrinkled, shriveled, or otherwise unattractive you might think you are. Get a photo. Not a group photo. Not an event photo. Just a picture of you with a person you love. Then do it again with another person you love. And then, again. Don't worry about feeling self conscious, or that someone might think you're weird for asking to have your picture taken, or that you want to lose five pounds first, or get your hair done, or at least put some make up on.

None of that will matter when that person you love can no longer be in a picture—because he or she is gone. What will matter is that you have it, that image. You won't look at it and think "look how fat I am." You'll look at it and think: I miss you, so how glad I am to have this picture of just us. 



i am so so sorry for your loss amy.

Claudia McDaniel

I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

Monika Wright

Oh, Amy, my heart aches for you.


Amy, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.


Thinking of you, Amy. So sorry.


In honor of you and your dad, I will get those pictures taken. Thanks for the reminder. God bless.


Hugs and love to you, Amy. I will do this the next time I see my parents. Promise

Cheryl Overton

I'm so sorry for your loss, Amy. Thank you for this...such an important reminder.


amy, i am so sad to read of your father's passing. god bless.

Donna Jannuzzi

Amy, you will be in my prayers. I'm so sorry for your loss.


Oh, I am so sorry. There's nothing easy to say after a death.


My heart is breaking for you, Amy. Through your pain, you send a caring reminder to us all. God Bless your family.


Amen and amen, Amy.

alexandra s.m.

So sorry for your loss Amy!
My heart goes out to you and your loved ones!

Angie Lucas

So very sorry, Amy. Thinking of you...


I'm thinking of you. Hoping you are doing okay. Love you.


I am so sorry for your loss Amy.


I'm so sorry for your loss Amy. Hugs.


Deepest thoughts and prayers during this time.

Aly Dosdall

hugs and prayers for you and your family, amy. photos are so precious and comforting when a loved one moves on. thanks for the wonderful reminder to constantly snap away.

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